An Electronic Mental Health Newsletter from Joel I. Kimmel, Ph.D., P.A. & Associates Volume 20, Number 3
During the pandemic, we were told to be careful about what and who we touched and to make sure we disinfected if we did. A major result due to these instructions was the loss of touch or physical contact with others. For many, this often resulted in Touch Deprivation with connected feelings of depression, loneliness, and anxiety.
Just imagine what it would be like if you were never touched by another person or pet. This month’s E-Letter provides information on understanding Touch Deprivation and offers some strategies for dealing with it. Our blog, Enjoying Spring!, can be found here.
ARE YOU TOUCH DEPRIVED?
Stop for a moment and imagine going for days or longer without a hug, a handshake, or even the simple comfort of a pet beside you. For many, many people, this isn’t just a thought. It’s a real experience known as Touch Deprivation.
From the very beginning of life, touch helps us feel safe, calm, and connected. Newborns are placed in their mother’s arms right away because that closeness provides comfort and reassurance. And that need doesn’t go away. It stays with us throughout our lives.
In fact, research has shown just how powerful touch can be. In one well-known study by Harry Harlow, infant monkeys chose comfort and softness over food. This reminds us that affection and connection are just as important as physical needs.
Wondering whether you are touch deprived? Take this simple, short non-scientific quiz:
Q1: How often do you experience physical contact (hug, touch, etc.)?
- Daily
- A few times a week
- Rarely
- Almost never
Q2: How often do you feel lonely?
- Rarely
- Sometimes
- Often
- Almost always
Q3: Do you experience anxiety or restlessness?
- No
- Occasionally
- Frequently
- Constantly
Q4: Do you feel emotionally disconnected from others?
- Not at all
- A little
- Quite a bit
- Very much
This quiz is presented solely to stimulate your thinking about whether you have or may have touch deprivation.
Why Touch Matters!
Touch isn’t just emotional. It’s also biological. Your skin communicates directly with your brain. When touch feels good, your body releases oxytocin, the “feel-good” hormone, helping you feel calm, supported, and connected.
When touch is missing, the opposite can happen. Stress levels rise, and you may notice:
- Anxiety
- Increased heart rate or blood pressure
- Muscle tension
- Trouble sleeping
Signs You May Be Experiencing Touch Deprivation!
- Feeling lonely more often than usual
- Low mood or depression
- Anxiety
- Difficulty sleeping
- Withdrawing from others
What You Can Do!
The good news is that even small steps can help bring more connection into your life:
- Hug or sit close to loved ones
- Spend time with pets; they count too
- Use a weighted blanket or body pillow for comfort
- Stay active with exercise, yoga, or dancing
- Consider a massage when appropriate
- Stay connected with others, even if it starts with a call or message
What to Remember
Touch isn’t a luxury. It’s a basic human need. It helps us feel grounded, connected, and emotionally balanced.
If you’ve been feeling more isolated, anxious, or down more than usual, you’re not alone and support is available.
We’re Here for You
Schedule a confidential consultation to talk through what you’re experiencing. We provide individual and family therapy, stress management, and treatment for anxiety and depression in both English and Spanish.
Call us: 954-755-2885 or Email us at info@kimmelpsychology.com
Visit us: www.KimmelPsychology.com
Joel I. Kimmel, Ph.D. P.A. and Associates
5551 N University Drive, Suite 202
Coral Springs, FL 33067
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Till April…
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