I am always impressed by patients and friends who seem to find joy in everyday life. They have a remarkable ability to focus on creating moments of joy, even when things are not going particularly well.
What I have also discovered is that their joy is contagious. When I spend time with these people, I often find myself feeling more joyful, too.
Over the years, I have come to think about joy a little differently.
We often think of joy as something that happens to us, but joy can also be something we intentionally create.
Being joyful does not mean being happy all the time. Life is filled with disappointments, worries, losses, and difficult circumstances. Joy doesn’t require us to ignore those things.
Instead, joy allows us to notice and appreciate the good moments even when life isn’t perfect.
Sometimes, becoming more aware of joy simply requires us to slow down. Rather than immediately moving on to the next task, take a moment to appreciate what is happening right now.
These moments may seem small, but they are often where joy lives.
Just as we can develop habits that increase stress, negativity, and worry, we can also develop habits that make room for joy.
Try asking yourself:
- What made me smile today?
- Who makes my life better?
- What am I grateful for?
- What can I appreciate about this moment?
Then, intentionally do more of the things that bring you genuine enjoyment. Call a friend. Listen to music. Spend time outdoors. Pursue a hobby. Laugh. Play. Be with people who make you feel good. Or simply give yourself permission to have fun.
Don’t Put Joy on Hold
Perhaps the most important lesson about joy is we shouldn’t postpone it.
So, today,look for something that makes you smile.
- Appreciate someone you love.
- Do something simply because you enjoy it.
- Notice something beautiful.
- Laugh at something silly.
- Call an old friend.
You don’t have to wait for joy to find you.
Sometimes, you just have to make room for it.
Your Turn
How do you create Joy? Feel free to share your thoughts or reach out. Email me at DrKimmel@KimmelPsychology.com.
